Families. Our most profound source of learning and deepening here on Earth. There really is nothing like it in our existence. Although we can trace the development of our family systems anthropologically there is also a spiritual component to what we have seemingly created here on earth with each other.
Once a soul has made the decision to have another earthly incarnation the first step is to decide on what kind of life they want or my need. This decision is based upon what lessons or themes the soul wishes to learn and also the learning and deepening that went on in their past life. This decision involves being matched with a certain pair of parents. This process also depends on the soul’s destiny and the desire for specific themes and lessons in the lifetime.
Our souls will preview the coming life before entering the mother’s body. It is similar to watching a movie of the souls planned future. The soul is often drawn to a family that best reflects its needs. But not in every situation. Sometimes the child’s name and karmic destiny have been chosen long before the actual conception. In some cases the soul does the choosing. From another perspective a higher power may design our cosmic contract. Some say a spiritually evolved soul can direct its incarnation and choose the place and family of its birth. This might be the situation with an Angelic Incarnation that is something like an appointment. A soul comes into the Earth to assist and purify a family line. But in most cases Karma will dictate the choice and the soul will be drawn like a magnet into whatever earthly body resonates with all its past experiences vibrationally.
Most children are born to their particular pair of parents with a specific reasons. The most common scenario in soul families is that the individuals have been family members in their past lives. This accounts for about seventy percent of all births. Another common reason is that the child wants to inherit specific gifts or characteristics from a parent in order to carry out a mission here on Earth. This case can cause some difficulties once the child begins to be integrated into it’s earthly family as lessons and deep learning can indicate contrasts between family members. In the third type of incarnation scenario a guiding spirit chooses the parents for a child. Of course this will be done with a souls best interest in mind. Souls that are indecisive are often matched by their guides with parents with similar frequency in order to be born on Earth.
In all cases souls need to have very similar spiritual vibrations and frequencies in order for them to dwell in their mother’s womb. In most cases children and parents tend to have common tendencies and personalities. Children are something like mirrors to their parents. By incarnating together the parents can learn and heal from their children as they raise them and bring them into adulthood.
Rarely are parent-child relationships created by chance. You chose your parents just as your children chose to born as your children. Parental relationships are part of the spiritual learning that we go through on this earth plane. When conflicts arise between parents and children they are a presentation of your spiritual homework that was assigned to you prior to be born.
The possibilities are carefully explained to the soul so they can choose. A soul still retains their free will. A lifetime of smooth karma, comfort, and affluence may not offer opportunity for growth or facing obstacles. A lifetime of painful karma however, may be just what the soul needs to balance previous experiences, and proceed at an ampliefied cadence. Sometimes this situation can be seen in Soul’s experience their last lifetimes. This is when past life regression may offer the adult soul some valuable insight as to the themes they may have agreed to when facing difficulty.
Being born into poverty or into a home with illness for example can help work out unfinished karma of a lifetime of ease and surface living. There may be a physical illness or challenge that a soul must deal with. This may help work out the karma from the lifetime as something who lacked empathy and kindness. The enjoyment of inflicting pain and seeing the suffering of others is what the soul needs to correct. So whatever you do in the last life will determine where you go in this life. Only if it has not been learned previously will it show up in the new. You cannot remove and energetic experience, even in death. It remains within the soul and as an imprint in the very fabric of our universe.
Prior to the birth experience many souls enter and leave or “visit” the developing embryo. This coming and going can occur up to a year and even for a time thereafter the child is born. Sometimes a soul will enter the embryo at conception and stay for a lifetime. On other occasions the soul will not stay within the fetus as it is unable to find the experience or vibrational frequency compatible with its needs. When this coincides with the parents needing that specific karmic experience, a stillbirth or miscarriage (or abortion) can occur. This idea is from a spiritual perspective only. There are of course many biological scenarios that play out in pregnancy.
A soul must be born at the specific time as well as being born to the idealic parents and place. The cosmic synchronicities that are involved here are monumental. When a soul takes his first breath they are cosmically programmed for life within an crystalline grid that stays with them for eternity. This grid indicates the lessons to be learned and to what degree. This pattern can be read in the aura, or the individual’s energetic field. Since astrological patterns contain all past, present, and future karmic indications, it is essential that the person be born at the precisely correct moment in time, and to the right parents.
Some parents need the experience of raising children born to somebody else, perhaps balancing the act of giving up one’s own children at another time. So too, the birth mother may need a wrenching or a relieving experience, perhaps having perceived life with indifference, or still harboring grief over a related experience.
The mother’s soul memory, or the Akashic record may be touched when she’s seeing her child for the first time or she feels it kick in her womb and she realizes it belongs to her. Many of the fathers involved in the surrogate relationship have felt wronged and have fought to the death to get their children who often have come from their seed. Such a father may also have in his soul memory the experience of rejecting of an incoming child or in some way failing to appreciate the bond of fatherhood. A Karmic Baby is also known as a Karmic Partner. The Karmic pregnancy can also refer to a pregnancy where twin flames have children together after meeting and finding out their shared mutual origins.
If two souls had been together before perhaps as a mother and daughter set, then they might wish to relive that experience again or perhaps relive it in reverse so the daughter becomes the mother in the new lifetime. I have seen this in my practice many, many times. It is one of the most common Soul Themes that I see. And one of the most rewarding. Sometimes the soul wishes to incarnate in a particular part of the world, and the choice will be less specific to the individual parent. This can also explain why people in their present lives are drawn inexplicably to parts of the world that they have never visited. It could be an energetic imprint from the past.
Once this connection to a potential parent is made the soul then creates a connection to that person and is present around their energy and waiting to be born at the right time. Parents also have significant influence as to which soul joins their family through conception. Our daily thoughts, desires and purposes create a beacon for souls who respond to these energies. This is particularly true of the mother. Her dreams, aspirations and interests all play a role in the as an attractant of the potentional incoming soul.
As far as families with more than one child souls also make soul contract and agreements with potential siblings. The energy field and desire of the mother and the souls wanting to incarnate combine to make the decision as to who is born first.
When Things Don’t Go as Planned
At the end of one lifetime the soul selects the lessons they will need in their next one. When they are ready to incarnate they make a request of God or the Creator through their guides who makes available several lifetimes for them to choose from, each of which is expected to provide those lessons. But only the themes of the lessons are available.
For each possible lifetime, a spirit is made aware of who the parents will be, the location, the genetic codes, what the early childhood might be like and a rough draft of what the life is expected to hold. From this they might guess the parents will be less than picture perfect but they are not given enough intel to know they would be abusive.
The souls of the parents would be attempting to guide them to be good parents and the child’s spirit will even try to advise them if they have greater experience and knowledge. Unfortunately, the parent’s individual personalities and histories their generational pain and lack of support can damage the soul and leave their spirits ineffective.
Abuse is never, ever okay and if the soul finds themselves in an abusive family it may be the case of incarnating as an older soul to cleanse family lines. Acting as a family depository. This incarnation is a very difficult one and the choice is made out of the body without the full details of the exact outcome. Only the lessons are revealed. Deepening, compassion and assisting with others ascensions are themes that are involved with this type of choice. It could also be said that these family choices are associated with last lifetime souls or those souls who will take a long hiatus before returning to the earth. The souls may seem like strangers to one another as they work through their agreements in this lifetime.
We also struggle with the problem of evil on Earth which does effect family systems. That is such a profound factor when inhabiting the Earth that one can never begin to understand how it influences family systems until perhaps at the time of passing when a life review is taking place. This cannot be underestimated in examining Spiritual Family Trees. Some family members seem to bring this darkness into the family. The element of evil does play a profound role in the contrasting process.
Adoption
Souls that are in agreement to be adopted have agreements with their birth parents as well as their adoptive parents. I think in these scenarios the child may have previously been involved with their adoptive family spiritually and physically and agreed to come into the world through this process. The child soul will find a way down here by any means!
I am adopted and sometimes I would say “Why am I with these people?”. My mother and I had a very difficult relationship. I took care of her though when she injured her back and was bedridden for 5 years. I did her nails, cooked, cleaned took her to her doctor’s appointments. Once she was better she went back to being difficult. It was always that way with me. I still don’t understand it today. But it made me who I am. It made me a very curious person and a very introspective person. I loved my mother but I never knew her. I grieve that more than her passing on. I did learn from her. She made me strong and self-reliant-if not a bit of a loner. She was a guarded woman but was much more open with my siblings. Maybe she was afraid that I saw her pain. Whatever the case I have come to accept that she and I were meant to meet. She did tell me before she passed away that she was proud of me and that she liked knitting together. Bombshell- coming from her. I loved her so.
The Law of Attraction applies to the circumstances of our birth as it does to everything else. In Soul Realignment, we uncover many energetic issues that are the consequence of negative choices made in past lives. All of the choices our Soul has ever made throughout its history comprise our karma … and our birth family has to match our vibrational state and karmic history. Like attracts like – it’s Universal Law after all. The Law of Attraction is only the beginning it defines the energetic circumstances we can incarnate into, but leaves us with many options.
The Soul also chooses its human parents based on its plans for lessons for the upcoming lifetime. Our Souls have a clear intention for incarnating – there is negative karma to resolve, lessons to learn, and gifts to expand so that we may evolve ourselves through our human experience. Our Soul may choose to make certain struggles and challenges part of its childhood because they are vital experiences to our spiritual growth … even though we may not yet have a complete understanding of how these difficulties fit into our purpose.
Life is incredibly difficult on this 3-D plane of existence. As Spiritual Beings we forget the brutality, the struggle, and the darkness that is present in this earthly sphere. In connecting with our Higher Selves the Soul makes its choices from its pure perspective as a Spiritual Being … a perspective that is very different from our human reality. Outside of the body without the ego and the conditioning the we experience on this planet. It is the themes and the lessons that the agreements are made of and from.
We can only choose our parents based on who they are at the time of our birth. Our parents have free will. As our society becomes more spiritually enlightened and many more choices are available to us in general predetermination becomes less accurate. Our parents can make negative as well as positive choices that were not foreseeable at the time of our conception and birth. As small children we are not yet fully empowered through free will and our Soul’s plan can become derailed. But this is only temporary. Eventually we will be infused with the gift of full self-determination. The awareness of our own self and we can craft our lives using our will and own awareness.
Incarnating into our birth family is not only a choice but a lesson in faith. We can surrender to the consequences of this choice until we become strong enough to decide our own individual pathway. Our souls do choose other souls to learn from.
Those of us who are parents can acknowledge the tremendous leap of faith that is involve in becoming a parent. We are essentially stewards in this young souls life. We create a positive vibrational state in our lives and by deciding to create a new life we have no real say about the Soul that will incarnate into our family. We simply open our hearts and do the very best we can to honor the choice that our child’s soul made it down. It is an example of how faith in the unknown really does influence our choices in the creation of our family systems here on Earth. I know my own experience of being a parent and having lost my son has deepened me and assisted my soul in its ascension in a way I never could have crafted for myself.
Being a parent is one the most rewarding and deepening experiences one can have on our earthly journey. It is an experience of learning. It is an experience of sacrifice and dedication. It is an experience and lesson in unconditional love and the understanding of the continuum of our life force while we are here and when we transition to our higher plane of understanding.
Love,
Kate
