Love

 

 

Love is defined as an  intense feeling of deep affection towards someone or something. But love is much more than just that. During a souls incarnation and lifetime it will experience all different spectrums of the feelings of love and will deepen and aspect the soul. The embodiment of love surpasses so much more than what we think of as love, Romantic love and it is responsible to create infinite weavings of threads of our existence here on earth.

Different Types of Love a Soul Can Experience

Erotic Love

The first kind of love is Eros, or Erotic Love , which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of sexual passion and desire. The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be dangerous and frightening as it involves a “loss of control” through the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is a passionate and intense form of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings. Erotic love is an exalted and beautifully idealistic love that in the hearts of the spiritually awakened can be used to “recall knowledge of beauty” through the Tantra. But when misguided this type of love can be misused, abused and indulged in leading to impulsive acts and broken hearts. This is a primal love that is very powerful and burns out quickly. It needs its flames to be fanned through one of the deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects of this type of love. This can also be known as infatuation.

This form of love can be very painful when it ends because there is no middle ground. It is a catalyst for learning and can involve one or two soulmates, past life people are also involved here. It is one of the most powerful deepening experiences a soul can have while in the body. Younger souls are usually the most deeply affected by this type of love and often time complete karmic contracts here on earth to ascend

Love Catalyst: The physical body

Enduring Love

Enduring love is natural because it is present without coercion or force. You are innately loving towards your children. Enduring love is emotive or emotional because of the deeply rooted traits you share, and the familiarity that comes from shared traits. This type of love typically does not need to be won. It is the least discriminating of all the definitions of love as the individual does not need to have traits you deem “worthy of being loved. The love and respect is given regardless of the virtue or acts of the individual. This love is viewed as a default or a given.  during love is our first understanding of conditional and unconditional love, and provides the vital life force that allows all other manifestations of love to thrive.

 

Enduring love is natural because it is present without coercion or force. You are innately loving towards your children. Enduring love is emotive or emotional because of the deeply rooted traits you share, and the familiarity that comes from shared traits. This type of love typically does not need to be won. It is the least discriminating of all the definitions of love as the individual does not need to have traits you deem “worthy of being loved. The love and respect is given regardless of the virtue or acts of the individual. This love is viewed as a default or a given.  during love is our first understanding of conditional and unconditional love, and provides the vital life force that allows all other manifestations of love to thrive.

 

Love Catalyst: Causal (Memories)

Obsessive Love

Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between eros and ludus.To those who experience mania, love itself is a means of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their own value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can become possessive and jealous lovers, feeling as though they desperately “need” their partners.

If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency.

Love Catalyst: Etheric (Unconscious)

Self Love

In order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune as is the case with Narcissism. In our society today Narcissism is at an all-time high. People have a distorted sense of self and freedom and live a very fragmented life because they lost the ability to feel empathy.

Self-love is one of the most important types of love. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of “self-compassion” which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to others. You cannot share what you do not have. If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anyone else either. The only way to truly be happy is to find that unconditional love for yourself. Often learning to love yourself involves embracing all the qualities you perceive as “unlovable”, this is where shadow-work comes in.

Love Catalyst: Soul

Unconditional Love

The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape, or selfless love. This type of love is not the sentimental outpouring that often passes as love in our society. It has nothing to do with the condition-based type of love that our sex-obsessed culture tries to pass as love.

Unconditional Love what some call spiritual love. It is an unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, a boundless compassion, an infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as “mettā” or “universal loving kindness.” It is the purest form of love that is free from desires and expectations, and loves regardless of the flaws and shortcomings of others. Unconditional Love is the exaltation of love. This is commonly referred to as God’s love for man, and of man’s love for God.

Regardless of context, external conditions, extraneous factors, or feelings, Unconditional Love is expressed without hesitation by those who feel it. This type of love is commonly known as the love we ascribe to ‘enlightened’ individuals — individuals who offer respect, understanding, and compassion to all beings without hesitation, judgment, or condition. This is the love that is felt for that which we intuitively know as the divine truth. Unconditional love accepts, forgives and believes for the greater good. A Kundalini Awakening often creates a situation within a soul where all the conditioning and programing is stripped away and the officiant feels only the vibration and understanding of the purest form of love. It is rare to be sure, but some souls agree to this prior to incarnating into a body. It is a love so pure, so powerful and so consuming that it is understood by only a few.

Unconditional love  is unconditional love for oneself and for all others.

Unconditional love is the love that is felt for that which we intuitively known as the divine truth: the love that accepts, forgives and believes for our greater good. Unconditional love also translates beautifully to the “Golden Rule” that is expressed by the worlds’ various religious scriptures” do unto other as you would have them do unto you”. To treat all beings with kindness, not because they have treated you with kindness first, but because you are a kind person.

How To Gauge The Level of Love in Your Relationships

Just by being able to describe love at a deeper level, you will be able to see where your relationships are. Both romantic and personal relationships can be understood through these lenses, and you can develop them if you so wish. When looking at or passionate/romantic love, you can determine how ‘surface-level’ your relationship is.

• Would your relationship be strained if you changed your look or image?
• How does your partner act when you’re sick, or not at your best?
• Are you commonly ‘advertised’ to their network or peers?
• Are you praised for certain aspects of your personality, but not others?
• What does your partner appreciate about you? What do they like about your character?

The goal here should be to understand the gap between fatuous and romantic love and adjust accordingly.

Love is the one aspect of life with respect to which we should never settle for mediocre.

By understanding where you stand, you can take action to dive deeper into these relationships.

• Do you have friends who ask you for favors, but are reluctant to help you when you ask?
• Do your friends check in on you by their own will?
• Do you feel like you can confide in, and truly open up to, your friends and inner circle?
• Do you feel respected, trusted, and appreciated by your friends?
• If you had great news to tell someone, who comes to your mind?
• Who in your life do you respect deeply?

As we noted, this is one of the highest levels of love as it is freely selected. As a result, you choose who you invite into your inner circle, and ensure that you are surrounded by those who love you.

Friends are incredibly important. Ensure that you surround yourself with good people.

• Do you see intrinsic value in everyone you meet.
• Are some individual people worthy of love, while others are not.
• Are certain types of people worthy of love, while others are not.
• Do you only give love to people who have loved you first, or done something you deem worthy of deserving love.
• Are there things people can do that would make you stop loving them.

How To Develop and Deepen the Love in Your Life

There are a number of ways we can improve the love in our life; to feel love deeply and to express it honestly and openly.

Identifying where our relationships stand on this spectrum. Are our relationships superficial, are they as deep as we thought, and how do we express our own love?

Once we understand what love is and how our relationships embody this love, we can decide where we would like them to be and take action to move forward. Here are some ways to do this:

1. Practice loving kindness meditation. Picture giving and receiving love to/from everyone that you meet.
2. Cultivate gratitude throughout your day.We cannot love others or receive love effectively until we ourselves are in a state of love. Cultivate this within yourself.
3. Take friendships deeper. Ask friendsabout the challenges they face and how you can help. Express times that they helped you, and express how important the relationship is to them.
4. Deeply understand your partner.Is this relationship solely fatuous? Or do you see the true inner beauty of your partner? Are they a beautiful soul or only a beautiful face to you?
5. Ask questions that build empathy.Move towards kindness for that person and all people. Ask them what they struggle with, what they are afraid of, what they’re passionate about, and what you mean to them.

Love is one of the most important experiences in our lives. We all strive to give love and to feel love. But too often it is an afterthought, something that we will simply ‘arrive at’ eventually.

All relationships have the potential to end in heartbreak, but each one is also an opportunity to resolve and change your relationship karma. Every relationship that you learn from, and end by moving forward with love, can be marked as a success. It doesn’t have to last forever to serve its purpose. If we put conscious effort into understanding and cultivating love, we can dive deeper into this profound emotional and spiritual state than we ever thought possible.

All relationships have the potential to end in heartbreak, but each one is also an opportunity to resolve and change your relationship karma. Growing and deepening by loving others and ourselves helps the soul mature and create a rich and balanced lifetime. Every relationship that you learn from, and end by moving forward with love, can be marked as a success. It doesn’t have to last forever to serve its purpose.